How Self-Talk Helps Manage Emotional Turmoil

When I’m struggling emotionally, I find it strenuous to calm down and seek solace and comfort. My mind becomes overwhelmed with racing thoughts, that lead to emotional turmoil. Instead of letting those voices rage in my head, I’ve learned to talk to myself aloud. Vocalizing my thoughts helps ground me when I feel trapped in a spiral of negativity. It also helps me to soothe the endless ache of pain that comes along with mental health.

I’m an emotional person, and highly sensitive to my surroundings. When something triggers my sentimentality, I freeze. I shut down, and literally become numb. But lately, vocal stimming has been a source of comfort. When I’m overwhelmed, I repeat phrases like “It’s okay” or “You’ll be fine” until I feel a sense of relief. I even have full-on conversations with myself, whether I’m alone or in public. Yes, it can be embarrassing, especially when my emotions become too intense. When I’m angry, I pace, cry, and curse under my breath. I can’t contain the emotions I’ve bottled up for too long.

Thankfully, I have an incredible support system. My neurodivergent friends understand me in a way that others might not. We offer each other advice, share stories, and work toward wellness together. Explaining my struggles to my neurotypical friends can be more challenging. However, some of them have taken the time to educate themselves on mental health issues. Their effort means the world to me, and shows that they truly care about my overall well-being.

Ironically, I’m the type of person who gives great advice but rarely follows it myself. I love helping people, easing their pain, and offering them comfort. So when I see a friend struggling, I tell them what I often tell myself: It will all be okay.The truth is, learning how to cope is an ongoing process. Every day is a battle, and every emotional breakdown leaves its mark. I have a habit of suppressing my emotions until they explode—whether that’s in tears, rage, guilt, or complete exhaustion.

I also absorb the emotions of those around me. If a friend is sad, I feel their sadness. If they’re happy, I try to match their energy. My deep emotional connection to others allows me to understand them well, to know what brings them joy and comfort. And when I succeed in helping them feel better, it reminds me that I, too, deserve that same kindness.

So I’ve made a promise to myself: to start taking my own advice. I will embrace the fact that I am a trusted, compassionate soul. I spread awareness and understanding, not just to others, but to myself as well.

“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.”

Aldous Huxley