I find comfort in knowing what to expect. I’ve always found a sense of security in knowing and understanding a situation ahead of time. It helps me prepare for potential outcomes and lets me sort through possible scenarios. I know, it sounds like overthinking, but really, I just like to go into something with a bit of a heads-up.

That same sense of security carries over into other parts of my life, too. I like keeping my personal items close to me at all times. Generally, everything I need is either in my purse or on my person. It’s funny because in every picture I take, my crossbody bag always seems to make an appearance. I like knowing that I have my lip balm, my sunglasses, my wallet, my fidget toy, a notepad, perfume, and other items with me. It might sound odd, but for me, it’s essential. I like knowing they’re there whenever I need them.

It’s not just about the things I carry with me. I also feel more at ease having someone I know around in social situations. I’ve always tended to cling to someone that way so I won’t look awkward standing to the side or in the corner alone. They also help ease my anxiety and calm me down when I’m feeling overwhelmed or socially drained. I don’t know why I always need someone around, but having someone there makes a difference.

I think that need for a little predictability is also why I like having my routines, knowing what my day’s going to look like, and having little things I can count on. I like going out every now and then, but it’s nice to know that I can come home to things I know.

I’ve also always been able to do things on repeat. I can watch the same movies over again, listen to the same band every day, or make the same meal a few nights out of the week without tiring of any of them. I look forward to those things I naturally gravitate toward when I want to relax or calm my nervous system.

I’ve always been drawn to having some sort of structure in my life. Unexpected changes, last-minute plans, or having my routine disturbed can throw me off balance. For example, if I skip my morning coffee, I’m completely out of whack. I don’t feel like myself, and it can genuinely ruin my day if I don’t get it at some point in the morning. I know that sounds rather ridiculous, but it’s a disruption to something I’m used to having or doing every day.

I’ve learned that some of this connects to being neurodivergent. My ADHD side can enjoy spontaneity, while my autistic side appreciates routine and predictability.

It’s an interesting combination because I can want something different while also wanting things to stay the same.

I know that we’re often encouraged to change things up, try something new, and step outside our comfort zones, but I don’t think every part of life needs to be different.

There’s nothing wrong with finding comfort in the things you already know and love. Sometimes, doing things the same way is exactly what makes a day feel good.

What are some familiar things or routines that bring you comfort?

“Habits change into character.” — Ovid